5 tips on raising unspoiled kids in a materialistic world
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While we live in a society that teaches people all about brand-name items and designs, we don’t want to teach our kids to be spoiled adults. However, raising unspoiled kids in today's world is not an easy task, but it can be done. Children begin learning and mimicking what they see and hear at a young age, but how do you know if you are raising spoiled kids?
Is your child spoiled?
- Not being able to take NO for an answer
- Think discipline is negotiable
- Hate losing at games
- Doesn’t show respect to authority figures
- When given something don’t say thank you
- Doesn’t compromise
- Is a bully or a manipulator
- Ungrateful or doesn't show appreciation for gifts received
- Nothing satisfies them
- They avoid chores or responsibilities
If you said yes to at least 5 of these, your child is spoiled. I’m sorry I know that’s hard to hear and I have to own up to the fact that I’ve said yes to them as well. But, let me also mention there’s hope, and with hard work and consistency you can raise a selfless and unspoiled adult. You can check out Kristen Welch's book titled, Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World where she shares more tips and advice here.
Here are 5 tips on how to raise an unspoiled child:
Just like at school, there should be rules at home. Create a list of rules and expectations with your child and have them repeat the rules allowed. Allow them to help create the rules, this will give them a sense of accountability.
Nothing rubs me the wrong way more than when a child says “I need” or “but my friends” constantly. Create family meetings with kids to allow them to be a part of the discussion. Help them to develop authenticity within the family. Discuss your beliefs and values, so that when you go out in public those values stay close to the vest.
Children are watching you closely so make sure you are putting your best foot forward. Set limits on financial spending, social media, and material gain to help stay grounded.
For children and adults to stay grounded realizing that not everyone has the same amount of resources can relay the message of appreciation and gratitude for one's resources.
No matter how you decide to parent your children, make sure you’re doing it with love and compassion. Celebrate the highs and learn from the lows, but when it’s done with an open heart, you can create a loving and positive environment.
In Conclusion
Raising caring, compassionate, and grateful children is a process that no one has all the answers to; however, setting the expectations above can be a positive reinforcement to ensure your child doesn’t grow up into a self-centered and ungrateful adult. I know that’s harsh, but it is what it is. Although while you are ensuring your child is adhering to these rules, make sure other guardians and caregivers that have influence share the same and enforce the rules that are set.